3 Ways To Check-In With Your Inner Child

We each have an inner child deep inside of ourselves. This inner child is waiting at the edge of their seat to be seen, to be heard, to be loved, and really just understood. Many of us have ignored this inner child. We have lived a life filled with deep conditioning from experiences, society, people, and families. It's often times made us ignore our true wants, needs, and desires for comfortability.

Now, as an aware adult. An individual that gets to make their own decisions it's time (waaaay past time) to check in with that inner child of yours.

Here's 3 ways we like to check in with our inner child:

1. Your Energy. Oooof, the one thing that trickles into every relationship and experience we have. Are we filled with energy or completely lacking. Ask yourself, do you feel like you're seen and understood for who you truly are? Key words, who you truly are. Not this person everyone else wants you to be. If you keep an eye out you will see that when you are around certain people you energy stays consistent and other people it'll quickly drain.

2. Your Reactions. If you're finding yourself easily triggered, blaming everyone else for all of your problems, quick to speak, analyzing every situation religiously, punishing yourself or others then you most likely are experiencing the inner child in you. Our reactions many times come from how we needed to react in our households. Were you always in trouble, a people pleaser, or someone that always had to apologize?

3. Your communication skills. We subconsciously inherit sooo much from our family or friends growing up. Similar to your reactions of you going into conversations hot and heavy or are you settled in to your emotions for a place of peace?

Things that can come up while you look inward and do deep inner child work:

+ you may snuggle to understand your emotions or the emotions of others which will make it really difficult to express emotion without a reaction or poor communication

+ you may throw an adult temper tantrum because you're unsure how to regulate your nervous properly

+ you may become self-centered and ego driven during times of conflict

+ you may develop an abandonment wound

+ your relationship style usually comes to the forefront (anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, secure attachment)

When you allow yourself to do this work and pay attention to your energy, reactions, and communicative skills you will be able to hone more into the version of yourself you were born to be. Adults who have done the inner work are able to connect with their bodies and others more gracefully, they are able to ask clearly for what they want and need, practice self-care, and can give space to others without feeling like they did something wrong.

What is your inner child needing right now?

How did you want to be loved, cared for, and understood?

To listen to our episode on supporting your inner child listen here!