You Are Human, It’s Normal To …

We’re feeling like we could use some extra hugs this week. How about you?

So many times we think we have to feel a certain thing or act in a certain way and if we veer off, we’re doing something not so normal. However, that’s just a lie we tell ourselves over and over and over again.

Normal is simply allowing yourself to be human. It’s knowing life won’t always be butterflies and rainbows (in fact most of the time it’s not). But how can you be present and at peace with that?

When you find yourself asking these questions …

When does it get better?

When will I have it figured out?

When will I feel understood?

Here are some of the reminders you need to simply allow yourself to be that beautifully messy human that you are. That we all are.

You are human and it is normal to …

Feel happy and sad (or any other emotion) at the exact same time. Don’t be upset with yourself for feeling these things. What’s important is that you find a practice that helps you find peace even with the conflicting emotions that are and can be present together. Maybe that practice is mediation, maybe it's spending time with friends, maybe it's journaling.

Feel discouraged about something not going according to the plan. We’re not just going to wake up and feel on top of the world after an expectation was short lived. Sure, the moment we set ourselves up for an expectation we instantly set ourselves up for possible disappointment but ... give yourself some grace, look at what you may have learned, and know that you did the best that you could in that exact moment. Things may not going according to the plan you had made but they are still all working out in the exact way that they should.

Be unprepared for an experience or unprepared for how things may turn out because of an experience. We’ve never been here before soooo … you can listen to every podcast, watch every Ted Talk, read every how to book, blah blah blah but bottomline is if you’ve not experienced something, no matter how prepared you “think” you are may not be close to what that situation will bring you physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We can only prepare ourselves so much. Will the podcasts, books, and ted talks help prepare you? Yes. Will they completely prepare you? Absolutely not.

it's also normal too ...

Experience imposter syndrome

Be unsure of what is next in your life

Getting jealous over someone who is inserted into your relationship

Have an identity crisis

Not want to spend time with certain people anymore

Desire more

Want change

Not like what you see in the mirror

Be scared of the unknown

Question what the point of existence is

Get envious of someone doing something you want

Baseline we are all the same. Yes, we each have so much uniqueness but really on the inside we can’t argue that we’re made up of the exact same things. We are all humans, doing human things, who don’t know what we’re doing. It’s important to meet yourself where you’re at, to meet others where they are at.

Many times, we find ourselves living in a mental mess. The mess of these shortcomings and life disruptors. However, the mess can show you the beautiful possibilities of being human if you take the time to look at it and clean it up. Eventually one of those possibilities will happen if you give it the space to flourish.

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